I am coming down off of a spiritual high that I can't even describe to you. A church invited me to come and speak in a town about three hours from here. I had the privilege to share our family's testimony to about 40 individuals. The coolest part of this is that 2/3rds of the crowd were men! My audience up to this point has been mostly women.
I freely talked about how to protect our families from pornography. The love I felt well up in me for the Body of Christ was amazing. I've never felt such a protectiveness towards other believers. My heart hurts for them. Many Believers suffer in silence for fear of judgement. I encouraged these men and women to start being real with one another.
Just some of the issues I addressed were:
1) What porn does to your brain
2) Who is viewing porn
3) Porn consumption in the church
4) Pastors and porn use
5) Porn in marriage
6) Triggers and brokenness that lead to porn use
7) Filters and blocks (how do they work and which ones are the best?)
8) Educating our children about porn, how to avoid it, and what to do when they come across it
9) What to do if you child has been caught viewing porn
10) How to move towards your child when they make mistakes
12) How to encourage instead of judge parents whose kids have really messed up.
13) How to kill worry and fear. Trusting God with your family
14) How to fight the good fight and much, much more! There are lots of resources out there now.
I truly believe in the verse that says, "He who refreshes others, will himself be refreshed." I have been refreshed! I can continue on this hard, seemingly never-ending journey knowing that I am equipping others so they do not make the same mistakes I did.
Eight people came up to me afterwards and shared their stories! God is doing something mighty here! I have such hope.
I hear this song frequently ringing in head,
"Where You go, I'll go.
When You stay, I'll stay.
When You move, I move.
I will follow You"
Two precious women traveled almost 60 miles and shared with me how much their small community is being rocked by sexual sin. She has asked me to come and speak to their church, so their church body can be equipped to know how to handle this kind of devastation within their own walls, and to minister to adults and teens in their community.
People wonder why our teens are out of control. When the adults and authority figures in their lives are leading sexually immoral lives themselves, it creates untold confusion. We have to be having deep and honest discussions with these kids or we are going to lose them. It starts with us, the adults!!!
The problem of pornography and sexual abuse is in the rise. It is an epidemic that is NOT going to go away. It is here to stay, but we have to remember that God is BIGGER than this problem. He will show Himself faithful to those who seek Him and want to be set free from sexual addiction. He died on the cross to set you free from ANY stronghold that erects itself in your life. You and your loved ones can be free! There is hope!!!
If you or you know someone who is struggling with sexual addiction, the best book I've ever read is called Surfing for God. I have a link on my sidebar for it. This book really moves from just seeking accountability, to really addressing the brokenness that causes people to seek porn. I have done hours and hours of research and read anything I could get my hands on, but this is the book that I have used with my two older boys and it has helped so much!