Are you feeling discouraged because your husband doesn't seem to take an interest in church? Do you feel light years ahead of him spiritually? Maybe your husband is a believer but just doesn't seem to really make an effort. Are you waiting for him to take charge of the home and start being the spiritual leader that you have been dreaming about? Girlfriend, you are not alone!
David Murrow writes in his book Why Men Hate Church, "Women attend church in greater numbers than men. This is true all over the world, in nearly every branch of Christianity.... Women are more serious about their faith. They are much more likely than men to participate in the life of the church beyond Sunday morning worship services. They are also more likely to practice Christian disciplines such as prayer, discipleship, and evangelism."
He encourages us to do a few things that just might bring the men back to church. Here they are, Ladies!
1. Be willing to let your husband choose a church that meets his needs.
2. Allow him to gather with other men, without any women around.
3. Meet with other women to pray for your husbands (avoid complaining though).
4. Stop dragging your husband to church with you-Jesus never forced anyone to follow Him.
5. Be more real and less saintly and religious.
6. Do not serve in a ministry to which God does not call you-you may be taking the place God has assigned to a man.
7. Seek to be humble and compassionate, rather than demonstrating attitudes that belittle or come across as spiritually superior.
8. Don't hold back from following Jesus with your whole heart.
9. Give up your fantasy of what your husband will be like when God gets a hold of him, and start genuinely loving him and appreciating his strengths now.
10. Teach your children to obey and honor their father, to serve Him, respect his advice. Mothers often turn their children's hearts away from their fathers because they don't understand how their actions are impacting the home. (Thanks Mindy, for this!)
Wow! I am so challenged by this. If you want to read my testimony called "Husbands and Church" click here. I can't believe how many of these things I have done or not done. We cannot give up hope, but we also need to face the fact that God has a plan for your husband. He knows what it takes, not you. The more we push and prod, the more they fight us and God and then our marriages suffer. It took years for me to figure this out. Younger women, don't panic and think, "if he doesn't believe then statistics say my children won't believe either." God is bigger than that!!!!
I am reading an amazing book by Nancy Meyer Sebastian called Spiritually Singles Moms. It is for anyone who has an unbelieving husband to the husband who is "just not into the church thing much". It is very honest and candid. She even talks about being jealous of her friends' "godly" husbands and how to answer your children when they ask about their father's spiritual beliefs. It is packed full of Scripture.
My hubby comes to church when he can. Sometimes he is up all night and wants to sleep when he gets home (he's a firefighter!). He used to force himself to come to church not because he wanted to, but because he knew I would be mad at him.
He loves our new church and although he is not involved other than attending, I can tell that he is interested, and feels at home there. Even though it was extremely hard leaving our old church (due to some hard circumstances) God has blessed us immeasurably with a new church family.
I will appreciate when he comes and I will let go of the days when he chooses not to. My husband is in God's hands. I want him to come to worship out of his own will, not because he wants to please me.
"Show me your way , oh Lord, teach me Your paths; guide me in Your truth and teach me for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in You all day long." -Psalm 25:4-5 My Mission for this BLOG is to bring glory to God as I share what He is teaching me as I raise my children for Him. I want to encourage mothers all around the world to hang in there! Motherhood is tough, challenging and gritty. But through Christ's strength and the support of other moms who are in the trenches, I will keep pressing towards the goal to raise Godly children. Please feel free to leave comments. It blesses me so much! You can also email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
I am a Stay-At-Home mother of six children. We LOVE having a large family. My first love, is Christ and the Words of the Bible. My passion is to teach my children about the Lord. I love to watch my children discover their own faith in God. My husband has been a firefighter for over 20 years and is now an officer. I am very proud of him. I long to be a Titus 2 woman who encourages other women to love their husbands and children and to thrive in their homes, not just survive.
The noblest calling in the world is that of a mother. True motherhood is the most beautiful of all arts, the greatest of all professions. She who can paint a masterpiece or who can write a book that will influence millions deserves the plaudits and admiration of mankind; but she who rears successfully a family of healthy, beautiful sons and daughters whose immortal souls will be exerting an influence throughout the ages long after paintings shall have faded, and books and statues shall have been destroyed, deserves the highest honor that man can give. -David O. McKay Motherhood is the one thing in all the world which most truly exemplifies the God-given virtues of creating and sacrficing. Though it carries the woman close to the brink of death, motherhood also leads her into the very realm of the fountians of life and makes her co-partner with the Creator in bestowing upon eternal spirits mortal life. -David O McKay We can't form our children on our own concepts; we must take them and love them as God gives them to us. -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe Lo, children are a heritage of the Lord; and the fruit of the womb is his reward. -Psalm 127:3 The mother's heart is the child's schoolroom -Henry Ward Beecher The art of mothering is to teach the art of living to children. -Elaine Heffner People who say they sleep like babies usually don't have them. -Leo J. Burke
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