Monday, March 25, 2013

A Parent's Idols

"Teenagers will instinctively find and trash our idols. (Surely, this is God's doing rather than our teenager's intent.) Our sons and daughters will tend to find our 'hot buttons' and regularly press them.

If we have an inordinate love for things, the teenager will dent the car the first time he drives it alone. In his nervousness to explain what happened, he will inadvertently sit on-and break-the plastic cover to the new stereo, while spilling his soda on your new oriental rug! There is a great temptation to lash out and say, 'Why don't you just trash every valuable thing in the house? It seems to be the one thing you're good at!' This is but one example of a very important principle we need to keep in mind. Our communication problems with our teenager exist not simply because of our child's character, but also because of our idolatry.

When desire for things (possessions, position, love, respect, appreciation, peace and comfort) takes the functional rulership over our hearts that the Lord alone should have, the result will inevitably be conflict in our relationships." -Excerp taken from Age of Opportunity: A Biblical Guide to Parenting Teens by Paul David Tripp.

Hmmm, some food for thought. What are my idols? What makes me so angry if it is invaded, displaced, or ruined?

I was faced with one of these idols today. My daughter called me up from school and said she needed basketball shorts for her basketball academy after school. I was furious! I was not very kind to Jessica as I was speaking with her on the phone and asking her why she didn't remember this herself. The truth be told, she had interfered with my plans. I didn't want to rush out to her school right after picking up the other two kids from the bus stop. When I was I my way to the school (20 minutes away), I realized that I hadn't told her she needed to bring shorts with her to the academy. I was the one that had not prepared her and let her know what she should bring. I needed to apologize. My own selfishness got in the way of what was truly important, my relationship with my daughter. Impatience leads to anger. I struggle with this as a mom. I want things NOW!

I had also noticed that my need for respect from my children had become an idol. Respect at all costs? Hmmm, at the sacrifice of relationship? Not good. For me, any kind of disrespect makes me furious. When I am angry, I generally sin. Although respect is important, it can't become my idol.

Now it's your turn. Can you recognize and confess an idol of yours?

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Be In Me

God be in my head, and in my understanding;
God be in my eyes, and in my looking;
God be in my mouth, and in my speaking;
God be in my heart, and in my thinking;
God be at mine end, and at my departing.

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Mom's on iPhones (A Different Perspective) by Another Mom

One of you in the comments of my last post had a wonderfully different perspective on moms and iPhones. I long to be the one in this post. The whole reason why my husband gave me the iPhone was to help me manage my home better. He felt it would be so much easier to have all my lists and calendar dates on one device. I resisted and resisted. It boiled down to him wanting to give me a precious gift and me not graciously accepting it. He was so cute the day that he gave the phone to me. He said, "See, I take care of my woman." LOL! I didn't know it meant so much to him.

So check this woman's post out. It is excellently written to women who use this tool in incredible ways.

 A great big "thank you" to Terri Burgess from "Thoughts of a Fireman's Wife"

I love to listen to different views and takes on issues. It makes me grow as a person and not be so judgemental. Only God knows the heart... Enjoy!

Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Moms on iPhones

I saw this post on FB and I was soooo convicted. My husband just bought me an iPhone. I have caught myself several times doing stuff on it and ignoring my children. It is so easy to check my calendar, check FB, check email, review my bank account, text a friend, read the Bible or play a game. I want everything I do to honor God.
So, I give my iPhone to You, Lord. May it be used as a tool for your purposes and help it to never distract me from the most important ministry that you have given me. My beloved family...
I don't know who wrote this but you have to read it. I have posted this because I want to practice what I preach and I know this will hold me accountable.
Dear Mom On the iPhone,

I see you over there on the bench, messing on your iPhone. It feels good to relax a little while your kids have fun in the sunshine, doesn’t it? You are doing a great job with your kids, you work hard, you teach them manners, have them do their chores.

But Momma, let me tell you what you don’t see right now…..
Your little girl is spinning round and round, making her dress twirl. She is such a little beauty queen already, the sun shining behind her long hair. She keeps glancing your way to see if you are watching her.

You aren’t.

Your little boy keeps shouting, “Mom, MOM watch this!” I see you acknowledge him, barely glancing his way.

He sees that too. His shoulders slump, but only for a moment, as he finds the next cool thing to do.

Now you are pushing your baby in the swing. She loves it! Cooing and smiling with every push. You don’t see her though, do you? Your head is bent, your eyes on your phone as you absently push her swing.

Talk to her. Tell her about the clouds, Mommy. The Creator who made them. Tickle her tummy when she comes near you and enjoy that baby belly laugh that leaves far too quickly.

Put your eyes back on your prize…Your kids.

Show them that they are the priority. Wherever you are, be ALL there. I am not saying it’s not ok to check in on your phone, but it’s a time-sucker: User Beware!

Play time at the park will be over before you know it.

The childhood of your children will be gone before you know it.

They won’t always want to come to the park with you, Mommy. They won’t always spin and twirl to make their new dress swish, they won’t always call out, “WATCH ME!”

There will come a point when they stop trying, stop calling your name, stop bothering to interrupt your phone time.

Because they know…

You’ve shown them, all these moments, that the phone is more important than they are. They see you looking at it at while waiting to pick up brother from school, during playtime, at the dinner table, at bedtime…..

I know that’s not true, Mommy.

I know your heart says differently.

But your kids can’t hear your words, Mommy. Your actions are screaming way too loudly.

May our eyes rest upon those we love, first and foremost, and may everything else fall away in the wonderful, noisy, sticky-fingered glory of it all.

Tuesday, March 5, 2013

Deadness to Life

In the midst of the dead leaves, the tender shoots of an iris start to pop out of the ground.
My heart feels the same way. Deadness, fearfulness  distrust is giving way to LIFE, CONFIDENCE and A life of FAITH.

"God is not an elusive dream or a phantom to chase, but a divine person to know. He does not avoid us, but seeks us. When we seek Him, the contact is instantaneous."- Neva Coyle

"I love those who love me; and those who diligently seek me will find me." -Proverbs 8:17 NASB

 God, thank you for seeking me. Thank you for wanting to invade every aspect of my life. I don't want to leave You out of any part of it. I praise You for who You are and what You do! You encourage me continually. When I seek You, I find You. It is there I find love, peace, hope and joy. 

"Guidance is a sovereign act. Not merely does God will to guide us by showing us His way...whatever mistakes we may make, we shall come safely home. Slippings and strayings there will be, no doubt, but the everlasting arms are beneath us; we shall be caught, rescued, restored. This is God's promise; this is how good He is. And our self-distrust, while keeping us humble, must not cloud the joy with which we lean on our faithful covenant God".-J.I. Packer

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