Sunday, October 9, 2011
Measure Your Response to His Reproof
You Know That You are Receiving Reproof From Your Husband Sinfully When...
1. You become angry and lash out at him.
2. You feel hurt, resentful, and unforgiving.
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. and be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also have forgiven you.-Ephesians 4:31-32
3. You focus on the things he is doing wrong.
You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eyes, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eyes.- Matthew 7:5
4. You suffer intense person hurt.
...He (God) disciplines us for our good, that we may share His holiness. all discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness. -Hebrews 12:10-11
Any reproof may be humiliating and may make you feel badly. However, do not add to your personal hurt by reacting sinfully. If you do not respond with humility and gentleness, you compound your sin. Even if your husband reproves you in an angry and unkind manner, you are still responsible before God for how you respond back.
It is never pleasant to realize that other people see you as less than perfect. It is humiliating. However, "...all discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness" (Hebrews 12:11). the "yield" of the fruit will depend in a large measure in how humbly a husband and wife give and receive reproof. If they love the Lord Jesus Christ, they will participate in and submit to the process of mutual sanctification. Helping each other become more like Christ so that they can glorify Him more is God's purpose in marriage.
Taken from "The Excellent Wife" by Martha Pierce.
I hope you have been challenged by this little series. I know I have. Now we need to ask God to put it into practice and change your marriages! May God be glorified by the fruit.