Friday, October 7, 2011

Guidelines for Reproving Your Husband


If you read the post "When Your Husband Reproves You" then you are probably wondering well, what about me? What if I am the one who gets sinned against?

If your husband sins against you then you have a biblical responsibility to reprove him. There are guidelines though.

1. Choose the right time.

The wrong times are when you are in front of others, when you have a sinful attitude, or when he cannot give your his undivided attention. The right times are when you are alone together, feeling well and rested, there is plenty of time to talk, and you are in control of yourself and reliant upon the Holy Spirit and God's Word for directing your thoughts and actions.

2. Choose the right wording.

The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours out evil. -Proverbs 15:28

Begin by thinking about what you want to say. It may even be wise to write it out and then practice it out loud. If you are in doubt about the content or how you are expressing the reproof, ask an objective, godly person such as an older woman in the church, who can be trusted, to read it and give her opinion.

3. Comfort him as you correct him. Give him hope that he can change and that you are devoted to him.

4. Be specific regarding his sin and offer a biblical solution.

For example, "Honey, I have noticed that you have been irritable and harsh with "Susie lately. I know she is at a difficult age and needs to be disciplined, but '...the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God' (James 1:20). Is there anything I can do to make it easier for you?"

5. Communicate a spirit of unconditional love.

If your husband is a Christian, then you are responsible before God to gently, lovingly tell him his fault. After all, "Love rejoices in the truth, it does not rejoice in unrighteousness" -I Corinthians 13:6.

As difficult as it is to give someone a godly reproof, it is usually more difficult to humbly receive one. How you receive reproof will be one measure of your maturity in Christ.

Next up, "You can Know that You are Receiving Reproof From Your husband Sinfully When..."H

(Excerpt taken from "The Excellent Wife" by Martha Pierce)

3 comments:

Veronica @ Luv My Quiver Full Of Arrows said...

Another great one!!

I need to just go reread the book once again!

Veronica @ Luv My Quiver Full Of Arrows said...

Another great one!!

I need to just go reread the book once again!

Mich said...

This is always a hard area in any marriage.

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