For the past couple of months, I have been parenting solo for much of the time. I sort of hit a wall the other day. It had been coming on for about a week. I kept fighting it, praying, staying in the Word, but no matter what I did, I just couldn’t help but sound annoyed with my children. Truth be told, we were driving each other crazy. Everyone wanted what they wanted, when they wanted it. I was no acceptation. As the week wore on, my patience kept waning and everything went downhill.
I knew I was weary. I knew I was tired of trying “to do good”. I kept praying about it until God hit me with a verse that was very familiar, but applied directly to my situation. I thanked God as I read it with freshness that my new “spiritual eyes” could have only picked up on.
“The Lord’s servant must not quarrel; instead he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. Those who oppose him he must gently instruct, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will.”-2 Timothy 2:24-26.
After I got my breath back and myself under control again, I started taking this verse apart and applying it to my situation from a mother’s standpoint.
1. I am the Lord’s servant. I must not get sucked into quarrels and arguments.
2. I am to be kind to everyone, especially to the child who is having a hard time. This is not easy. When I am angry, I am not kind. If I feel disrespected,I can get ugly fast.
3. I am to be able to teach. I can’t teach what I don’t know. If I don’t know what the Word of the Lord says, I can’t instruct my children. I need to constantly be in “learning mode” when it comes to Bible study.
4. I am to not be resentful. I can start resenting Steve and the children for all the times they get out of the house. I can resent the fact that I am by myself most of the time with the children. But ultimately it doesn’t do any good. The reality is that I chose this lifestyle when I married a firefighter. I also chose to have a large family. That in itself is a lot of work. I shouldn’t be surprised when I get tired and worn out. Instead of being resentful, I need to ask God what it is I am NOT supposed to be doing. Resentfulness wastes valuable energy that could be directed towards gaining strength in the day to day activities that God wants me to be doing.
5. “Those who oppose him he must gently instruct, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth”. I have not always been a gentle parent. Many times when I am instructing, I raise my voice to make sure they hear me, instead of lowering so they have to pay attention. In my mind I think I have to have a firm voice so they can hear the annoyance. This is to make sure they KNOW I am displeased with them. Honestly when I parent this way, it sucks the life out of me. You can only thrive on anger so long before it wears you out. Instead, I need to gently and lovingly teach them so the end result is repentance. I want them to know the Truth, but I can’t beat them over the head with it. I need to know when to back off and let (especially the older children) come to a place where they can repent and seek restoration. They too, can feel when the relationship is strained. They are learning to take responsibility for their actions and not “let the sun go down on their anger”.
Even though I had fallen down on my mothering job, I knew that if I kept seeking Him, I would find Him. I knew that if I repented, He would lovingly bring me to where He wants me to be. What a loving Father! What a good God! His Word gives us all the answers we need.
Here is another verse He gave me, “The wise in heart show discernment. Pleasant words promote instruction.”-Proverbs 16:21
“Father God, let my heart be wise! Let my instructions be promoted by pleasant and gentle words. Take this harshness from my speech. Fill me with Your Spirit so I can love my family the way You ask me to. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.”
"Show me your way , oh Lord, teach me Your paths; guide me in Your truth and teach me for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in You all day long." -Psalm 25:4-5 My Mission for this BLOG is to bring glory to God as I share what He is teaching me as I raise my children for Him. I want to encourage mothers all around the world to hang in there! Motherhood is tough, challenging and gritty. But through Christ's strength and the support of other moms who are in the trenches, I will keep pressing towards the goal to raise Godly children. Please feel free to leave comments. It blesses me so much! You can also email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
I am a Stay-At-Home mother of six children. We LOVE having a large family. My first love, is Christ and the Words of the Bible. My passion is to teach my children about the Lord. I love to watch my children discover their own faith in God. My husband has been a firefighter for over 20 years and is now an officer. I am very proud of him. I long to be a Titus 2 woman who encourages other women to love their husbands and children and to thrive in their homes, not just survive.
The noblest calling in the world is that of a mother. True motherhood is the most beautiful of all arts, the greatest of all professions. She who can paint a masterpiece or who can write a book that will influence millions deserves the plaudits and admiration of mankind; but she who rears successfully a family of healthy, beautiful sons and daughters whose immortal souls will be exerting an influence throughout the ages long after paintings shall have faded, and books and statues shall have been destroyed, deserves the highest honor that man can give. -David O. McKay Motherhood is the one thing in all the world which most truly exemplifies the God-given virtues of creating and sacrficing. Though it carries the woman close to the brink of death, motherhood also leads her into the very realm of the fountians of life and makes her co-partner with the Creator in bestowing upon eternal spirits mortal life. -David O McKay We can't form our children on our own concepts; we must take them and love them as God gives them to us. -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe Lo, children are a heritage of the Lord; and the fruit of the womb is his reward. -Psalm 127:3 The mother's heart is the child's schoolroom -Henry Ward Beecher The art of mothering is to teach the art of living to children. -Elaine Heffner People who say they sleep like babies usually don't have them. -Leo J. Burke
To be a mother is a woman's greatest vocation in life. She is a partner with God. No being has a position of such power and influence. She holds in her hands the destiny of nations, for to her comes the responsibility and opportunity of molding the nation's citizens. -Spencer W. Kimball