"Because marriage, more than any other relationship, reflects God's involvement with us and bears more potential to draw our hearts to heaven, it can more readily give us a taste of hell." -Dan Allender and Tremper Longman III
Strong words, but for many women this rings true. It isn't a taste of heaven. It is a process in which they find themselves in the need of being "undone" by God. They have to look at a difficult marriage as a long-term course in developing their own good character.
I was super-impressed with this article by Andrea, a writer for "At the Well". Here is the link to it http://www.titus2atthewell.com/when-your-husband-isnt-godly/ . It is a testimony and an encouragement for those wives who do not have the perfect, godly husband who "washes her daily in the Word".
I think sometimes women can get very discouraged by reading all the perfect blogs with the perfect husbands and children. It can be deflating when they get off the computer and face the messiness in their lives and their relationships. The enemy can actually use it to beat us up.
Be blessed! There is something you can do to escape this spirit of defeat. Check it out ladies! It will be worth it.