Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Is Marriage About Me?
It's so against what the world says marriage should be...
A perfect husband who comes home with flowers in his hands after a fight.
A man who says sorry when he knows he's wrong.
A man who strives to be romantic and affectionate and loves to take walks instead of watching TV in his Lazy Boy.
Ladies, this is NOT the norm. If you have one of these kind of guys, I congratulate you! You are truly blessed.
The other 95 percent of us have to work hard to keep any spark of romance alive as we wade through the messiness of life.
"We think marriage is the place where we are promised happiness and love, not the place where we learn to love each other and face the ugliest parts about ourselves....If you don't change your view of marriage, you will eventually conclude that your marriage is flawed, that it is wrong. You will begin to think thoughts like: I must have married too young; I probably married the wrong person; Maybe this marriage was never meant to be."-Mark Gungor
I spent my first seven years of marriage asking these questions. I was so unhappy because I had a completely distorted view of what marriage looked like. I had been addicted to trashy romance novels while I was a teenager. Oh, the lies that the enemy put in my head!
"Dare to believe marriage is good, that the one you are in is good. Dare to ask God to help you treasure it, appreciate it, and stay committed to it, even though there are times you feel a little shaken-up and with your needs going unmet."-Mark Gungor in "Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage".