I'm seeing a huge difference in attitudes when it is time to do chores. Andrew has really started enjoying being part of the Brown Team. He is now emptying garbages, unloading the dishwasher (sometimes), mopping (sort of), doing the silverware, emptying the recycle bin, making his bed and emptying his laundry hamper and doing it most of the time without complaining. Very cool! Here Lily is doing her best to help.
I'm so thankful that my husband encouraged me to train our children to help me with the housework. My biggest chores now are budgeting, taxiing, cooking and laundry. They are proving to be a great help and I am confident that by the time they leave this house, they will know how to keep an orderly house.
I am really working on attitudes and not allowing my children to argue with me. It has been an exhausting week. My firefighter hubby left for an out-of-town class for five days (plus one of his regular shifts). I decided to crack down the day he left or I knew I would be run ragged with all the arguing that I had been allowing. It kind of crept up on me. I always want my children to feel like they have been heard. But, I know I take this too far. It breeds arguing, especially with the oldest two. God held my hand and gave me lots of wisdom (via friends, books and prayer) as I formed my own "Mama's Bootcamp". I could see major fruit by the end of the week as my children started "seeing the light" and I think even liking some of the boundries placed.
One son decided to quit Tae Kwon Do right after he passed his belt test that we paid $35 for. I made him earn the money back. He was not happy, but I think he learned a valuable lesson. This child needs hard consequences if he is going to learn anything. I can't protect him from them and more importantly, I shouldn't be! I now have a clean fridge, picture frames dusted, every room in the house vacuumed, showers and bathtubs scrubbed, sinks and mirrors are glistening. Oh yeah! Plus the child had to work for his Papa Russ all day.
I pray that next week will be better and I will be even more consistent and the children even more compliant. It is amazing how much disciplining I am doing with six children. Sometimes I feel that is all I do. But I have to. It isn't a choice. I love them too much to let them disobey and misbehave. It does them no favors in life. God will see me through this stage. I know He will. How do parents do this without God?
"Correct your son and he shall give you rest. He will give delight to your soul."-Proverbs 29:17
I'm in for a lot of rest and delight if I keep this up!