Monday, September 20, 2010

What Makes Me Angry

(From the Stacie's Archive's, written a few years back. This article appeared in the An Encouraging Word magazine) Since this article was written God has helped me so much with my anger. Half the battle is facing it and then be willing to do something about it)

Dear Mothers,

If you are an angry mother, would you do something for me? Would you raise your hand? Guess what, my hand is raised, too! God sees your hand and He sees your admission to this particular sin.
Anger is something that I have struggled with for as long as I can remember. First it was my parents, then when I got married it was directed towards my husband, and now of course it is trickling downward to my precious children. Anger has been my “thorn in my flesh”. I don’t think God will ever take it away. Do you know why? Because by having this problem, it keeps me dependent on Him and it also keeps me from being prideful in my mothering.

I would like to share some things I’ve discovered about why I get angry that have helped me along this journey towards a more peaceful existence. The first thing God revealed to me, is that I get angry when I don’t get my way. It’s pure and utter selfishness! Not pretty, is it? The second reason why I get angry is when my husband and children create more work for me. When I already feel like all I do is work, the last thing I need is to have an “extra” job of cleaning up spilled milk, Cheerios, mud, poop, and/or vomit! Do you know what I mean, ladies? Is it just me? No, I think not! You know why I know that, because I’ve talked to hundreds of moms that are just like me. I know you can relate to this!

So how do we combat this tendency towards anger? We have to deal on a daily basis with our selfish nature. We have to learn to “do it for the Lord”! We will have peace when we let go of those things that are hindering us to become more peaceful people. Ask God what your hang up might be. He’ll let you know, I guarantee it. I have had to cry out to God and repent of screaming at my children, of stomping my feet and acting like the two-year old that I am trying to discipline! I have to lean on Him for a fresh anointing of His Holy Spirit EVERY DAY! When I wing it, I fall flat on my face in the first five minutes! Ask God to fill you till you are overflowing with His Spirit. Then and only then will you see the fruit of the Spirit shine in your mothering. You will automatically have patience, peace, self-control, kindness, gentleness, goodness, love, and JOY! And the best thing is, God will be glorified through your mothering! God will use a mother like that in mighty ways!

Remember ladies, you can’t do this on your own. It will never work. God is waiting to help you with your anger. If anger isn’t your problem, then I’m sure you have another “thorn” that is causing you to lean on Him.

The next time you get angry, ask yourself three questions…

1. Am I angry because I am not getting my way?

2. Am I angry because I have to do more work?

3. Am I angry because I am being selfish?

God may not take away the tendency to “lose it” on others, but if you are filled with His Spirit, you will have the power to make the choice to lose it, or to overlook the offense.

May God grant you His favor this day as you continue to press on towards the prize of godly mothering.

From One Mom to Another,


Sarah said...

Oh Stacie! I too feel that my anger is the 'thorn in my side' and would love to be rid of it!

The Lord is also teaching me valuable lessons through all of the trials over the last few years though...but I sometimes fret that it will be too late...

God Bless you dear sister in Christ!

Wanting What I Have said...

Oh Stacie! I needed to read this today! Today of ALL days! Thank you. I had to raise my hand (and I did!). I have lost it this morning - the AC is out and it's in the 90s...tons of dirty dishes...and a broken dishwasher...fussy children, men in and out of the house trying to repair the AC, the dogs...the list goes on and on and the bottom line is the more work for me to do issue and I resent it. Thank you for speaking truth into my life and for pointing me to the cross. I appreciate you!

Catherine said...

Whew, a word aptly spoken, Stacie!

Muthering Heights said...

That certainly a tough battle...I think we all face it to some degree!

singing mama said...

Great post Stacie! Such food for thought and just what I had needed to hear at this time!
Luv Donna

kathy said...

My hand is raised! Thanks for the encouraging words!

Amy said...

Thank you. I needed this today.

God Bless.

Rachel and Family said...

Well that just makes me mad what I find when I assess myself! ha!ha!

I loved reading about the revolutionary war party. It looked like so much fun and very well planned! I love Lily drinking tea. We miss you all so much. We don't find friends like you everywhere we go.

Are you already planning next year's party??

Anonymous said...

The title of this post jumped out at me this morning. I must raise my hand here too. I get angry for the very same reasons. Not all the time. Mostly if I haven't been taking good care nutritionally or hormonal. Anyway, thank you for writing this post.

You are a blessing!

Angela said...

Beautiful!!! This was a powerful post...I too have dealt with anger and all those lists that you have shared are exactly what our Heavenly Father revealed to me also...I praise God and thank Him for NOT giving up on us, but that He continues to do His good work in us, making us, molding us, transforming us into His 'crowns of splendor in His right hand'..((hugs))

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