When I read the heading "Limit Peer Time" in the book, "Raising One Million Arrows", by Julie Ferwerda, my interest was piqued. Hmmm, I wonder what she has to say about this. Well, it turned out that I really liked what she said. It was very balanced and I am all about balance.
She says, "Proverbs 22:15 describes children as being foolish, and Proverbs 13:20 says, "Whoever walks with the wise will become wise; whoever walks with fools will suffer harm."
From this you can derive that kids who spend too much time with age mates (outside of siblings), in effect, are walking with fools.
Julie continues, "In order for children to become wise, they need to spend ample time with more mature and wiser people whom they can imitate in all the important areas of their lives-spiritual growth, communication, self-discipline, relationships, and personal development."
For those of us who have been called to homeschool, this just makes perfect sense! I love that my children can carry on adult conversations with anybody of any age. The reason? They have learned the art of conversing with adults because they are around them more than they are around their peers.
Now if you don't have the option of homeschooling, let me give you some hope. Make sure they are learning how to converse with adults. I am amazed at the lack of conversation skills that some teens have. They have no clue how to make people feel at ease by asking certain questions that seem obvious, like "How are you doing? What do you do for a living? Is there anything I can help you with?" ...That type of thing. Perhaps you can visit some shut-ins and teach your children how to love and value elderly people by conversing with them. Just asking them about their loved ones and truly listening is huge to our older generation. It makes them feel like someone truly cares about them. If this is not an option, pray and ask God how you can surround your children with more mature mentors in the Lord.
(I am not saying here that your children should never hang around with people their own age. I love the rich friendships that my children have built through Sunday school, youth groups and Church Camp. It is a blessing to watch them choosing their friends wisely. They do not, however, spend more time with these friends than they do their parents, grandparents and other mentors.)
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I am a Stay-At-Home mother of six children. We LOVE having a large family. My first love, is Christ and the Words of the Bible. My passion is to teach my children about the Lord. I love to watch my children discover their own faith in God. My husband has been a firefighter for over 20 years and is now an officer. I am very proud of him. I long to be a Titus 2 woman who encourages other women to love their husbands and children and to thrive in their homes, not just survive.
The noblest calling in the world is that of a mother. True motherhood is the most beautiful of all arts, the greatest of all professions. She who can paint a masterpiece or who can write a book that will influence millions deserves the plaudits and admiration of mankind; but she who rears successfully a family of healthy, beautiful sons and daughters whose immortal souls will be exerting an influence throughout the ages long after paintings shall have faded, and books and statues shall have been destroyed, deserves the highest honor that man can give. -David O. McKay Motherhood is the one thing in all the world which most truly exemplifies the God-given virtues of creating and sacrficing. Though it carries the woman close to the brink of death, motherhood also leads her into the very realm of the fountians of life and makes her co-partner with the Creator in bestowing upon eternal spirits mortal life. -David O McKay We can't form our children on our own concepts; we must take them and love them as God gives them to us. -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe Lo, children are a heritage of the Lord; and the fruit of the womb is his reward. -Psalm 127:3 The mother's heart is the child's schoolroom -Henry Ward Beecher The art of mothering is to teach the art of living to children. -Elaine Heffner People who say they sleep like babies usually don't have them. -Leo J. Burke
To be a mother is a woman's greatest vocation in life. She is a partner with God. No being has a position of such power and influence. She holds in her hands the destiny of nations, for to her comes the responsibility and opportunity of molding the nation's citizens. -Spencer W. Kimball