Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Look to The Interests of Others-Part 2

The comments on Part 1 were very good. I encourage you to go back and read them.

Let's dive right in, shall we?

Are you afraid of looking foolish? Too late! Anytime we are stubborn and bull-headed, refusing to listen to another's perspective, we look like a fool. We usually end up saying hurtful, mean things, resorting in increasing that ever-widening gap between you and your spouse.

"Love Dare" says this...

The wise and loving thing to do is to start approaching your disagreements with a willingness to not always insist on your own way...You are choosing to give strong consideration to their preference as a way of valuing them.

Love's best advice comes from the Bible, which says, 'The wisdom that is from above is first pure, than peaceable, gentle, willing to yield" (James 3:17). Instead of treating your husband like an enemy or someone to be guarded against, start by treating them as your closest, most honored friend. Give their words full weight.

No, you won't always see eye-to-eye. You're not supposed to be carbon copies of each other. Two people who always share the same opinions and perspectives won't have any balance or flavor to enhance the relationship. Rather, your differences are for listening to and learning form.

Are you willing to bend to demonstrate love to your spouse? Or are you refusing to give in because of pride? If it doesn't matter in the long run-especially in eternity-then give up your rights and choose to honor the one you love. It will be for the good for you and and good for your marriage."

Here's the "dare":

Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse. Tell them you are putting their preference first.

If it is honoring, please share with us, what you chose. What did giving in cost you? How will this help you in the future?


hip chick said...

These are great posts. I will be following your dare posts.
I have chosen to let Mr. Hip choose the colour we will paint our bedroom. Of course, he would not choose something I really dislike. But, the final decision will be his.

Kimberly said...

I've been giving in on the little things, "my" little things, that he does that I allowed to drive myself crazy with. The word the Lord revealed to me for this year, "contentment", includes this sort of submission and outward kindness to others. That doesn't mean it's easy for me, quite the contrary!

RaD said...

I had gotten better at that a while back ago. But now I find myself saying, "Do what you want because you know you're going to anyway." I think I need to drop that little note of sarcasm if I really want to succeed in looking to his interests instead of mine. But thanks, because while reading this it was brought to my attention.

Cheesemakin' Mamma said...

Did this today. Good thing because he ended up being right, LOL!

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