I love the book "Good and Angry" and have implemented a ton of ideas from it. The "break system" has been amazing, but sometimes doesn't seem like enough of a consequence. I was reading another really good book called, "Raising a Large Family While Staying Sane". I think this might work good for our family. You see, I have a hard time thinking of consequences on the spot. When you have five children that you are constantly disciplining you can sort of lose track of things! I wrote up a chart of different colored levels. I explained to the children if they disobey and break any of the 21 Rules of The House, then they will lose privileges. So now if a child is sassy, I tell them they have a Code Yellow. That means they have lose their snacks for the day (hey this saves money, too!). If they do something else, like hit their brother or take a toy away, they go to Code Orange. Hmmmm, no snacks and no electronics (TV, computer, radio, books on tape). That one hurt a bit! You see how it is going. Green is an Afternoon Rest Time (my older boys would be offended if I said they needed a nap), Blue is 7:00 bedtime and the worse is Red, go to bed right after dinner. Yikes! A fate worse than death! I keep track of where everyone is on my dry erase board in the homeschool room. So far, only Josh has gotten to Code Orange. The next day, he was a different child. So, as always we'll so how long this works. I think if I am consistent with this and not afraid to dole out the consequence it is going to work. What is hard is when I know that we have company or that we need to go somewhere. I'll have to tweak it sometimes, I'm sure.
You can go on my sister Jackie's blog, www.homesteadwannabes.blogspot.com to see how she made it work for a smaller family. She also explained a little bit more about why we are doing this. Good stuff!
Oh, what do you think of our little Pumpkin Lily? we got the idea from Jackie.