Thursday, October 29, 2009

30 Day Challenge Check

Ladies, how are we doing? I thought I might do a little "spiritual" check up on us since we are about 1/3 of the way through. Time goes fast when you are having fun (or changing bad habits)!

It has been much easier since the first time I took this challenge. I must have established some good habits! Yeah! Anytime you are going the right direction is a time to rejoice! I have caught myself several times thinking negative thoughts and do a mental check of why I was about to express my frustration disrespectfully. There are other ways to get your point across. Using a pleasant tone of voice and nice words helps. Also, timing is everything and a calm facade. I say facade, because I could be screaming on the inside, but if I can get my request out in a respectful way, Steve hears me so much better. I'm sure most husbands are the same.

I want this group of 17 women, so far, to be able to be truthful about their struggles. You don't need to go into detail (that would be defeating the purpose of this Challenge). But we need to be real with each for accountability's sake. If God lays it on your heart to write a short testimony on how you are doing with the challenge so far, please leave it in the comment section! I'm sure we will all be blessed by your transparency and victories!

I'm going to leave you with a link to one of my devotions called "Fighting Clean". We will have conflict! How do you come out clean instead of dirty after a fight? Read more here:

May God bless you as you endeavor on this amazing journey with me! I'm very excited about the Give-Away! I am actually going to have two winners! It's not to late to join. Just leave a comment stating you want me to pray for you.

Here is a list so far of the ladies who we are praying for: Kimberly, Grandma Becky, Tammy, Hip Chick, Catherine, Jackie, Deb, Alexis, Mrs. Lukie, Jenn, Ruth, Amber, J, Susan, Margaret, Jill, "I am a Gift", and I (Stacie).

Be sure to list these names up to the Lord when you find yourself struggling! We all will benefit from each other's prayers.

Love you all!


Cheesemakin' Mamma said...

Great idea, Stace! I find it has been easier this time around, but it has made me aware of some areas I've been slipping in. Mostly in the area of assuming my hubbies intentions. I need to stop doing that because boy to I come away with egg on my face. I'm praying for all these women and I pray more will join. Thanks for doing this, Stace!

Love Ya Like You're My Twin :P,

Cheesemakin' Mamma said...

Where do you get your vintage clip art? I love it. BTW, congrats on getting 60 followers!

Stacie, A Firefighter's Wife said...

"I am a Gift", thanks for joining us!!!!! We will be praying for you. God is going to do a mighty work in your life. Obedience always equals blessing.

Anonymous said...

I've noticed that I easily revert to a snappy tone when I've FELT pressured, because of time or whatever. I'm most snippy with those I love! The good news, I've recognized this, my goal now is to implement a nice tolerable disposition instead of the snapping turtle. Slow to speak. It's sort of funny with Hubby, it's almost like he's knows I'm up to something but can't quite figure it out, so he just goes with it! This past weekend I was working on a project with a deadline- Hubby was throwing ?'s at me - I was giving short answers - then I realized how I was sounding, not mean, really just occupied, and that this was my Hubby's day off to be with us and a pleasant Me, he would appreciate. Then I found myself over apollogizing, and he was laughing at me (in a good way)! It was really just that moment of realizing that I was in my little world - and I shouldn't have been.

J said...

I am so thankful and honored to be being prayed for by you and the other ladies who have committed to this. I fell badly a few days ago. Really badly. We worked through it. And the Lord has faithfully helped me to hold my tongue. I can very much relate to speaking calmly and at the appropriate time when I'm screaming on the inside. This is a blessing to me and to my family. Thank you for "challenging" me. I appreciate you and am so thankful for the body of Christ!

alexis said...

I'll be truthfull--I slipped up last night! I lashed out in anger at the hubby. I am dealing with one VERY fussy little teether, as well as end of pregnancy aches and pains and insomnia. I am a very cranky mama right now! I felt horrible after the incident, but my husband extended grace and forgiveness to me, and I promised myself to get right back on track with this challenge. I am praying for you and all the other ladies that are taking the challenge, and I encourage each one to not get frustrated if they slip and fall--just pick up and go on!

Jenn @ A Country Girl's Ramblings said...

Honestly, I have slipped up several times. But, also I have caught myself a few times too! It has been a little difficult to do this challenge lately, because we aren't seeing a whole lot of each other. So, I am working on my whole attitude towards him even if we aren't actually together.

Stacie, A Firefighter's Wife said...

Thank you so much for your comments. It helps me to know how to pray more specifically for you. I'm waiting to hear from the rest of you...!

You can do it! We need you in this discussion to help edify each other.

Grandma Becky said...

I'm doing pretty good so far this week. I don't get to see hubby alot but we have a time to share in the evening b4 I go to bed. It's amazing that he's been nicer to me lately, like even came out of the kitchen yesterday a.m., opened the front door for me and gave me a kiss as I was on my out to work. He's usually up and in the office on the computer.
Today at work a lady came it and she was complaining about her husband's antics of what he does wrong. MmmM I said to myself, she needs the 30 day challenge. She's one of my least favorite customers and I feel sorry for her, in a way. I guess I can pray for her! :0)
Thanks for your prayers and am praying for all of you!!! God bless and have a good night! :0)

Chris in FL said...


You are a blogging queen aren't you? I can't keep up with all these posts you put out. ha ha ha.

I'll have to go back and read the rest of them.

As far as speaking lovingly....oh boy.... that is something I am constantly having to check. Especially with the kids.

I can also get a bit naggy with my hubby. There are times that I become the "spiritual police". I don't tell him directly but I wonder if he is reading his bible, or praying. I need to let go and trust the Lord that my hubby is leading his family with the right heart.

Thanks Stacie for your encouragement!! :)

Cat said...

The acronym "HALT" has been helpful for me, but especially during this challenge, which is going well right now. Thanks for the idea of praying all of us up by listing our names! HALT stands for hungry, angry, lonely, tired...all those times or situations when we should halt anything that may fly from our mouths toward a loved one.

David said...

It has felt really good in the last few days as my husband has some big decisions to make and I have been not questioning him or probing him but being present and sometimes just showing affection and physical touch instead of words which helps him feel supported in his challenging times. He was diagnosed with Crohn's Disease a year ago and when he is stressing it starts to flare up a bit. I haven't been pointing fingers at the real issues but picking other llighter things to talk about. I know it is different around here since I am being more intention about my words and I feel that God and I both know what I would have said in the past and now I can internally smile with Him as I know He is changing my thoughts and therefore my words. Once the deadlines come and pass, it will be even more important to protect my thoughts of him and hold captive the mean or judgmental ones. I have been rehearsing my trust in God today and yesterday and choosing to believe that He has got it all figured out and I don't have to worry or meddle in their affairs. It is hard and I find myself wondering but trying to stay away from the worry. I suppose doing this a second time has really open my eyes and made it a bit easier but still have a long way to go. I also need to work on the words with my children and choosing them more carefully and limiting them to when it is needed and not lecture. Thanks for your words, Stacie and probing us to do better and be better to please our maker.

Margaret said...

Oops...I guess my husband was on my email account so it said David and not Margaret. A funny for you all. May you all thrive this weekend with your hubbies and your loved ones.

Stacie, A Firefighter's Wife said...

Great acronym, Catherine!

Margaret, you are doing so well! Thank you for sharing everyone. You have been so encouraging and it makes press towards the goal even more!

Can't wait to hear from the rest of you!

RaD said...

Not too shabby, but I'd rather not pat myself on the back. This time around has showed me where I have "slipped" but it has been easier to slide into the habit again since I had become lazy. Two BIG things I have noticed are I am happier and we're more of a team when it comes to the kids and their conflicts. YES! Unity is definitely important. Thanks for doing this again, I'm seeing fruit and it is oh so sweet and juicy!

Amber said...

I am so glad I am doing this 30-day challenge! When I read I think Day 1 of the book, The Love Dare (love it and the movie, Fireproof!), the dare was to say nothing negative to your husband. I did that for some days and remember telling people, "Man, if you do that one dare alone it will do wonders for your marriage!" Plus, I knew how biblical the book was. I saw fruit and was blessed. Then I began to wonder if the majority of our problems were because of me (my mouth)! Of course, that's not true but there wasn't much conflict. I am experiencing these things again now and have had a very blessed week and a half so far. He has come and apologized to me a couple of times for things he did and on a couple of occasions he knew I was frustrated but was having self -control. He has been incredibly sweet and reciprocating. The one thing I worry about it is depending on my own strength. I ask myself, "What's going to happen after the 30 days?" It seems I can make changes for a couple of weeks and then I fall because I am relying on my own strength instead of drawing my strength from Christ. I have felt the prayers and God has given me grace. Thank you so much to all who have been praying.

Stacie, A Firefighter's Wife said...

Amber, very good point! How are we to continue this. Well, I think the whole point of making this a 30 day challenge is that it takes over 20 days to form new habits. I, too, do food for awhile, but I have to regroup when I realize I am slipping. That is why I am so glad that Ruth suggested it. We grow complacent, we take each other for granted and we are not INTENTIONALLY loving each other. The 30 Day Challenge has helped me be more intentional as well as Love Dare.

It begins with kindness, and controlling our mouths. We can't do it in our own strength!

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