A wise woman once said, "While we're focused on building character in our children, God is focused on building character in us."
"Maybe it's perseverance - we can't give up on them. Maybe it's patience - no one guarantees immediate results. Maybe it's humility - lest any man should boast! Maybe it's contentment - learning not to envy that mom down the street whose kids seem to have it all together. Maybe it's dependability - truly showing our children that we'll stick with them even when their behavior breaks our hearts. Maybe it's dying to self - doing what needs to be done, even when we don't want to. Like oh say. . . playing a board game with your kids when you'd rather read a book by yourself. (Ouch stepping on my OWN toes now.)And maybe it's for God to continue to grow our faith in Him, to truly remind us to walk by faith and not by sight. When we see what God can do in our children's lives in spite of all of our mistakes and shortcomings (both parents and children), we are reminded that truly it IS all about Him. It's not always easy, but it is about Him"
These words are from a homeschool mother, Nancy Carter. I admire her honestly and frankness as well as her vulnerability.
When we are having those horrific days of what seems to be chaos and madness, remember that God is using these children and sometimes difficult situations to refine us and build our own character. When we see anger spewing out of our children’s mouths and recognize our own voice, it hopefully makes us stop, repent to God and ask for His gracious forgiveness to cover our own sins. We are quick to point out our children’s faults, but are we as quick to admit our own?
This is something to think about. God loves US as much as He loves our children. He wants our impurities to be brought to the surface so we can impart our newly found wisdom or character change upon our children. It’s a win-win situation!
Don’t avoid those character-building moments, embrace them and you will be made whole!
From One Mom to Another,