Thursday, April 7, 2011
I have started a new book called, "The Man You Always Wanted is the One You Already Have" by Paula Friedrichsen. It is very good so far.
She had a paragraph in it that I wanted to share with you. It's titled "Man, He Gets On My Nerves!"
"Song of Solomon 2:15 says, "Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, our vineyards that are in bloom." Think of your marriage as a vineyard.
More often than not, it's the little things that wreak havoc upon your relationship-those annoying little personality quirks that seemed cute when you and your husband were first dating. It's important to walk in forgiveness for the everyday irritations that have the potential to spoil the companionship, fondness, and romance that should be growing in your marriage. Maybe your husband always runs late-or nags you because you always make him late. Or he's a neat freak, and you have three kids in a house that will never be picked up to his standards. Does he talk with his mouth full...interrupt you at dinner parties...keep you awake with his snoring?
Whatever the particular "little foxes" are in your marriage, they need to be met with diligent and persistent acceptance and forgiveness. Forgiving love is like a sentry stationed on the watchtower of your vineyard, and is a powerful tool to keep your vineyard blooming, growing and productive."
This was powerful to me this morning. Those annoying things can really sneak up on us and we start to feel resentful, dislike, annoyance and displeasure with the one "we have forsaken all others for". We need to revel in the "familiar love" that God has given to us. Do they complain when we don't have our make-up on when we greet them in the morning? Do they complain when we have a few extra pounds hanging onto us? Do they complain about our wrinkles as we get older? We have familiar love that surpasses all that superficial stuff. Let's protect our vineyards from those little foxes that sneak up on us. When you find one, pray about it and see if it is as big as you really think it is. If it is a "bigger fox" then maybe it needs to be addressed. Always pray before you do this, lest you be perceived as a nagging wife.