Tuesday, January 18, 2011
Feeling Overwhelmed? You Don't Have to Do it ALL!
"I was talking with a young wife the other day on the phone and she said, “My husband is so frustrated because I have a new baby and I can’t get everything done.”
I said, “I want you to ask him what are the two things that he really wants done, and then you make a commitment to get those two things done.”
She came back the next day and she said, “Okay, he wants food and he wants to be able to see the countertops in the kitchen. That really bugs him when the kitchen is dirty.”
I said, “Okay, you focus on those two things. If you can get more done, that’s great.” If you are a student of your husband enough that you know what his hot buttons are, then you can meet those needs.
My husband could care less if we eat peanut butter and jelly for dinner. If when he comes home he can sit down in his recliner and my children look mostly normal—they’re clothed. I did call home yesterday at one point and found out that my three youngest had a mattress in the front yard of my neighbor and were sliding down the mattress into the street.
So just because I have been doing this for many years does not mean it always happens perfectly. But you know, my life is real. What I have found in the midst of my very real life is that God truly is who He says He is and that He really is sufficient."-Nancy Leigh DeMoss website "Revive Our Hearts Ministries"
This is something I did a long time ago with Steve when I was feeling overwhelmed and he asked for the exact same thing. Food and clean counters! OK, I can do that!